The last few weeks she has spent much of her nap time, playing with her stuffies and generally destroying the room.
Now, she might feel fine afterwards and might make it to bedtime with very few no-sleep toddler meltdowns.
But I am not prepared for this yet.
I need nap time.
And so does she. Whether she likes it or not, her tiny little body still needs a rest. The reality is that when she doesn’t sleep at all, she often won’t make it to bedtime without a lot of tears and a few trips to the naughty spot.
Naturally, being a social media addicted mom, I have whined all over Twitter, Facebook and even Vine about the lack of proper nap time.
This has brought about a few (unsolicited) pieces of advice from other mom friends about how maybe my daughter has grown out of naps and I should let it go.
Fantastic. When shall I expect you to come pick up my seething mini tyrant for the evening?
So here is my advice – I don’t know if I’m qualified to give parenting advice with just my first, but everyone else seems to – to any toddler moms going through the same transition.
I have had a few other friends that tried the concept of “Quiet Time” with their older toddlers and figured maybe we would give that a try.
We now tell Lilly that she has to have quiet time instead of a nap. This tends to quash the typical stream of excuses she regularly comes up with around nap time.
Lilly: “But I can’t sleep Mommy. I not tired. See (pointing frantically out the window) it not night time.”
Mommy: “You don’t have to sleep. You can play with your baby or read your books, but I think you should maybe try to sleep too.”
Taking away the condition that she has to sleep takes away her need to fight going into her room at all. She understands that she has to stay in there, but she doesn’t have to stay silent or even stay in her bed. This just gives her a breather. A pause. She takes some time away from anyone, away from the TV and her toys and can simply chill.
More times than not, she will quietly play with her baby, reading books, etc, for the first hour or so. Then she passes out.
Even on the days that she doesn’t end up falling asleep (like yesterday), that couple hours of quiet time seems to give her enough relaxation to help her unwind for the last stretch of the day.
Now, if only I could line up a regular housekeeper to come in each day during this time…then Mommy could have some quiet time too. That would be really ideal